The topic for Week 35 in Amy Coffin’s and Geneablogger’s 52 Weeks of Personal Genealogy and History series is: Weddings. Tell us about your wedding. You may also talk about your future wedding, the wedding of a relative or shape this question to fit your own life experience.
Having talked a little about my own wedding under the Fame topic, my thoughts turned first to the prickly issue of religion which affected many weddings in earlier generations. Unless the couple had the same religious affiliations there were often fallings out over family members who would not attend a wedding in another denomination’s church, no matter how close the relationship; families that split asunder over “mixed marriages” and the like. Fortunately, in my view at least, those issues are much less likely to cause family disputes in the 21st century.
My thoughts then turned to the marriage of my ancestors George Kunkel and Mary O’Brien over 153 years ago. He was from Bavaria and she was from County Clare, Ireland but both were Catholic and presumably this was a critical factor for them.
If I could have a magic time machine, these are the questions (among many others) that I’d like to ask them about their wedding and marriage:
- Could you both understand each other[i]? Was George’s English good enough to communicate effectively? How and where did he learn English?
- Why weren’t Mary’s parents’ names and her place of birth put on the marriage record at St Mary’s Ipswich, Queensland? Did George even know this information at the time?
- Why didn’t the priest, who was Irish, have more interest in documenting Mary’s records?
- How did you meet? Was it at work? (He was a servant and she was a housemaid)
- Were you sad that no family members could be at their wedding?
- Did you write to your families afterwards to let them know? Who wrote to Mary’s family as she could not write?
- What was Mary’s relationship to her bridesmaid/witness, Sarah O’Brien? My research suggests that Sarah was probably the daughter of Daniel and Winifred O’Brien who arrived from Tipperary in 1853 on the Florentia. George and Mary had continuing links with this family over the years. Might they have been related however distantly or did they come on the same ship? (To this day I can’t find Mary’s immigration, or indeed George’s).
- Mary’s sister Bridget had been in Queensland for a year after arrival but married her English non-Catholic husband in or near Albury circa 1860. This couple are separated in death, in different denominational parts of the Urana cemetery. How did Mary feel about this mixed-religion marriage and did she feel sad when her sister moved interstate?
- George’s witness, Carl Wörner[ii], was another of the Dorfprozelten emigrants. Carl had been employed to work for John Ferret who owned properties on the Downs as well as Ipswich. Was Carl simply in town in time for the wedding or was he actually working there, if so he was lucky not to suffer the isolation of shepherding on a distant property? Although living not far away from them in later years he never witnesses another family event. Why?
- Did Mary & George enjoy setting up home in Ipswich in those early years and being part of the town’s growth?
- Did Mary miss George when he travelled afield for work eg on the Taloom goldfields and possibly the railways?
- Were they proud to see all their children, grandchildren and great-grandchildren before their deaths? The evocative photo above represents only a small fraction of their descendants in 1910. George and Mary were in their late 70s at the time.
- Their marriage lasted 58 years until George’s death in 1916 amidst WWI anti-German hysteria. Were they happy years? Had their culturally-mixed marriage been a success?
Questions reflecting a 21st century perspective admittedly, but nonetheless I’d love to know the answers.
[i] A friend we knew in PNG used to say “He knew no Dutch, I knew no Italian, so we made babies”.
[ii] His name is indexed as Mosrins or Blomai in some records. The Dorfprozelten local historian promptly identified it as this immigrant.